Couples Therapy · Boulder, CO
Couples Therapy in Boulder, CO
You're not here because you don't love each other. You're here because the cycle keeps repeating, and you're ready for something different.
Schedule Your Free ConsultationWho it's for
Couples therapy is for
Couples caught in cycles of conflict or withdrawal
Partners who feel disconnected, distant, or roommate-like
Couples recovering from betrayal or loss of trust
Newlyweds or engaged couples building a strong foundation
Couples navigating life transitions: new baby, job change, relocation
Partnerships where intimacy and closeness have faded
Our Approach
Emotionally Focused Therapy
We use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the most well-researched approaches to couples work, with a 70–73% success rate for clients who complete the process.
EFT works by looking beneath the surface argument to what's actually happening emotionally. Most couples are caught in a pursuer-withdrawer cycle: one partner pushes for connection, the other pulls back. Both are trying to protect the relationship in their own way, but the cycle itself is what keeps them stuck.
In EFT, we slow down the cycle. We identify the feelings underneath (fear, loneliness, shame, longing) and help each partner share those feelings in ways that invite connection rather than defensiveness.
What to expect
Map the cycle
We identify the pattern that keeps you stuck, not to assign blame, but to understand the dance you're both doing.
Access the feelings beneath
We slow down and get curious about what's happening emotionally for each of you under the surface behavior.
Build new connection
New patterns of sharing, hearing, and responding create the safety and closeness you've been looking for.
Common questions
If you and your partner find yourselves having the same arguments repeatedly, feeling distant or disconnected, struggling to talk without it escalating, or simply wanting a stronger and more secure relationship, couples therapy can help. You don't need to be in crisis to start.
Sessions are 50 minutes and happen with both partners present. Early sessions focus on understanding your cycle: the patterns of interaction that keep you stuck. Over time, we work to shift those patterns and build new emotional responses that lead to greater safety and connection.
EFT is an experiential, in-depth therapy model that prioritizes re-wiring emotional bonds. The length of treatment varies depending on your attachment and trauma history, whether you have experienced any betrayals in the relationship, complicating factors (such as neuro-diversity or addiction), etc. We will work with you to determine your goals and will frequently communicate about the length and progress of your treatment.
Ready to work on
your relationship?
Free, 30-minute video call. No commitment required.